The Nuclear Family and Stockholm Syndrome by Proxy
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liberty54
 January 24 2023
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    A recent post from my elementary school best friend stated something along the lines of, "If you are a woman supporting the nuclear family, you are a victim of Stockholm Syndrome."

    This angered me-but why? Mostly because it's an over-simplification, a projection. I know this wasn't directed at me, but we follow each other and "heart" each others stories quite often. I know she is aware of my current stance.

    I support the nuclear family. The nuclear family=optimal functioning for me and I'm humble enough to discuss this. I understand that there are exceptions, but I couldn't do what I do (well) without my fiancé!

    I decided not to respond to her faulty argument. I don't want to fight with her. Alexis is a really cool person, even if she hasn't yet been blessed with the best mentors (yet).

    Sometimes I think some women need reassurance-it's okay not to be a feminist! It's absolutely not psychologically unhealthy to be feminine. It's not morally wrong to be feminine. There's a lot of confusion. A feminist surely will make you feel terrible about any hint of femininity. Isn't that counterintuitive?

    I assumed Alexis had adopted the feminist worldview before she posted this cut to the nuclear family. She posts quite frequently about polyamory.

    Polyamory sounds like a terrible idea, Alexis. You have two children you're responsible for. I don't want my daughter having to guess, "Who's Daddy?"

    Am I too selfish for that? Or not selfish enough?

    When most women condone behaviors such as polyamory-this seems to stem from the wounded feminine. Maybe Alexis has been hurt. Maybe her high school sweetheart betrayed her in some way or another.

    I think back to before my few long-term relationships in my teens and twenties. What was I like-before I was hurt? I find that after renewing my perspective, after a major psychological and spiritual transformation, I have finally returned to that state. You can, in fact, return to the much more comfortable and biologically-compatible feminine. And feminism is not the solution, but only reinforcing the pathology.

    Choosing to marry and stay with the father of your children may be a sacrifice, but I wouldn't call it Stockholm Syndrome. I think Stockholm syndrome by proxy is more appropriate terminology, honestly. Comparing the nuclear family to Stockholm Syndrome is like Betty Friedan comparing homemaking to concentration camps.

    Alexis clearly doesn't have much of an argument, mostly, because a choice exists. We all must make choices, some involve sacrifice.

    What's your sacrifice?

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